Balancing assertiveness, aggression, and femininity involves finding a harmonious blend of the 3 qualities. I am going to share ways balance them while staying true to your personal style and who you are as a person and know this is entirely possible as you navigate your personal protection journey.
Confidence is Key: Confidence is essential in self-protection. Believe in your ability to protect yourself, and let this confidence radiate in your demeanor/ mannerisms. Regardless of your gender, confidence is crucial …. stand tall, make eye contact, and project assertiveness in your body language.
Body Language: good posture, stand tall, and make eye contact when dealing with others. Avoid slouching and do not appear timid.
Voice and Communication: Speak assertively and clearly. Your tone should convey that you're not to be messed with, but you don't need to be loud or aggressive in a confrontational way. Practice saying "no" Speak with a steady and assertive tone. Practice (and I do mean practice) speaking at a volume that ensures you're heard without shouting and as you are setting boundaries speak calmly and assertively, with wavering. Immediately correct anyone who crosses the line. Do you remember the phrase – give’em an inch and they will take a mile? How about “you teach people how to treat you” by correcting folks early they will know you are not the one or the 2, hahaha.
Awareness and Avoidance: Part of personal protection is avoiding potentially dangerous situations. Trust your instincts/gut and remove yourself from situations that don't feel right.
Mental Preparedness: Mentally prepare yourself for potential confrontations. Visualize scenarios and think about how you would react, so you're not caught off guard. Your body can’t go where your mind has never been.
Carry Self-Defense Tools: If you choose to carry self-defense tools, ensure they're accessible and that you're proficient in using them. This could include pepper spray, personal alarms, or a firearm.
Training for All: As your personal protection ally, my goal is for you to become stronger and more confident, especially in controlling your life and claiming your rights by encouraging you to take self-defense classes with and without your preferred self-defense tools.
Remember that being assertive and feminine is about embracing your strength and self-worth. It's about setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and being confident in your abilities while staying true to your authentic self, if you have to behave in an aggressive manner that doesn't mean losing your femininity.